Love Does Not Dishonour Others

What is dishonour? It's to bring shame, humiliation or disgrace to someone, and that can be done in a variety of ways. How we speak or act can either bring shame or humiliation, or it can bring joy and peace.

It's so important that we think before we speak and act. Learning to do this, can save so much hurt for the other person involved and can keep you from having an upset in your relationships. For example, if I was to contradict my husband in front of others and made him look foolish, that would be dishonouring to him and not demonstrating my true love for him. It shows a lack of respect.

If you're married, here's some important questions to ask yourself as you examine your heart in relation to your spouse: "Are my words and actions respectful and honouring, or will this bring embarrassment or shame?" "Am I reading, watching or looking at something that dishonours my spouse and that I wouldn't want them to see me doing?" "Are my thoughts and intentions towards my spouse pure and free from unfaithfulness and dishonour?"

If there is anything in your life that would hurt and dishonour your spouse, you need to root it out of your marriage now, whether that be gossip, sarcasm, bitterness, unkind jokes or even bigger things like lust towards another person or pornography.

Real love will always be looking for ways to bring honour and happiness to the life of your significant other. In the Bible, Romas 12:10 sums it up really well: "Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves."